As women have been pushed into the realm of the Masculine, the same forces have done so to men by demanding they move more towards the Feminine. For decades, Feminists and the Media have wanted men to become more in touch with their ‘Feminine Side’. Be kinder, more caring, compassionate, nurturing and help out more with the children and domestic chores.

And, as a general request, it seems fairly sensible. On the surface.

Since female reproductive mate selection is typically predicated on the idea that the father of her children would stick around, he might as well get involved. After all, going through nine months of physical and emotional stress, being made more vulnerable and more dependant on others to help with certain tasks is hardly worth it if the man that brought about this state isn’t going to hang about. It sends a terribly clear message to the mother.

She’s been rejected.

And so too has her child. This, to my mind, is the main tenet of fatherless children. I say fatherless, but I mean absent fathers. As the The British Psychological Society points out in this article, getting fathers involved in the mental health of their children is a struggle. And by absent, this can be physically, emotionally or both. The BPS’ article was regarding trying to get more fathers involved in the treatment of mental health issues in children.

And this King’s College London article looks into the relationships between father-mother and father-child in relation to wellbeing and mental health of both mother and child when the father is around.

I come back to the idea of rejection because I think a lot of the mental health issues plaguing Millennials and Gen Z stem from this at a deeply subconscious level.

As women have been largely pushed back into the workplace over the last century but with emphasis on entering into typically male domains, there are increasingly fewer places for men to be men. Most can’t exercise their masculinity at work; they can’t do it out of work and they can’t do it at home.

Similarly, boys aren’t allowed to express and develop their masculinity at school or in social settings. Recently, I was in the Highlands with my family over Christmas. We went swimming and, in the male changing room, I noticed that the young boys were very reluctant to get changed whilst there were men other than their father around. The father would be in the shower trying to encourage his son it was alright to get changed. Indeed, in my local gym, younger men (late teens to late twenties) tend to shower with shorts and flip-flops on whilst the older ones wear nothing but a towel on their way to the cubicle then go nude once in. These younger men are showering partially dressed. This shift towards a form of social and physical anxiety around other men concerns me. It suggests that men, particularly in the West, have been weakened to the point that they suffer from insecurities surrounding their own body in the presence of their elders. Much in the same way that women have for centuries, maybe millennia.

In my younger days, I played for the local rugby club and we were not shy in showering together after a game. There was nothing homoerotic about it. It was just guys cleaning up. Our bodies are functional and were treated as such. They had done a job and we were tending to them by washing them down and giving them clean, dry clothes before refuelling them in the clubhouse and engaging in banter with our teammates and members of the opposition.

But this current behaviour where young men and boys shun their own bodies is a sign that things have gone too far. The emasculation is all but complete and what will society do when its men have faltered? Falter also.

So, to come back to the topic of rejection, if the father has rejected the mother and left the picture entirely then the child will grow up wondering why daddy never loved them and their mummy enough to stay. It is my view that a mother’s love is predominantly automatic and thus never has to be earned. To be loved by one’s mother is the default. But the love of a father must be earned for he must earn his own masculinity for masculinity is structured extinction, that is to say a man must find a suitable reason to die. He must find a purpose to which he can lay his life down for. That is the essence of masculinity and it sits above his primary evolutionary purpose because his masculinity must feed back into it and so begin a self-sustaining cycle whereby a man’s purpose is fuelled by his family and his family fuels his purpose.

According to the Trades Union Congress, fathers earn up to 21% more compared to childless men in similar roles whilst mothers tend to see a drop in earnings up to 33%. This, I argue, is because of what I just mentioned; Purpose fuels family and family fuels purpose. Unfortunately, it can set up a perverse cycle of a father worker longer and harder to provide more for the family he rarely sees which then comes back to the previous idea of rejection. If the father works most of the time, does he love his wife and children or is it out of love for his wife and children that he works so long? One is a rejection and the other is a sacrifice. Unless, the father has figured out how to set up a stable home, maximise his income and minimise his work time. But, that’s very much the exception in today’s society.

WORK

Traditionally, manual labour jobs were seen as most attractive to women. Not only were some highly skilled, but they also had the capacity for high danger. Fireman, construction worker, miner, policeman, fighter pilot, soldier, plumber, the list goes on. These jobs tapped into, in varying degrees, the masculine need to face danger head on, tackle it, overcome it and come back home where any wounds can be tended to by his (I’m idealising here) loving and grateful wife.

However, this article from Cosmopolitan back in 2015 suggests a shift:

1. Medical/dental/veterinary (6%)
2. Legal (6%)
3. Teacher/professor (5%)
4. Financial services (5%)
5. Technical/computers/engineering (5%)
6. Executive/management (5%)
7. Self-employed (4%)
8. Sales/marketing (4%)
9. Political/government/civil service/military (4%)
10. Advertising/media (4%)

Some of those traditional areas feature, namely 1,2 and 9 (Military) which have long been seen as attractive to women and will no doubt remain so for many years to come. But if we look at the rest, there is a certain link between them.

Emotion and Psychology.

Where the traditional entries require a cool measure of stoicism to function, the others don’t require that to the same degree. You can get away with being more mouthy and opinionated as long as your work meets the required standard. You can be the epitome of professionalism one moment and the office clown the next. Or, more darkly, where traditionally attractive occupations rewarded strong, skilled and honest men with a wife, these current entries favour men who’ve mastered the feminine art of emotional manipulation to the point where they can get other people to do what they want without even touching them or raising their voice. And where some, 8, 9 and 10, aren’t necessarily high-paying, they do require elements of Jung’s Dark Tetrad (Previously Triad) of Machiavellianism, Narcissism, Psychopathy and Sadism for the roles to be done competently. A truly honest person would not last long in sales, advertising or marketing. You have to be able to bend the customer to your will to get the result. But, make sure they do so willingly.

This is not unlike the typical heterosexual relationship. The man tends to want to go off and do things his way. Whilst the woman recognises the man is stubborn and/or arrogant and that a physical confrontation is out of the question, she uses her ‘feminine wiles’ to get him to come round to her way of thinking.

At least, that’s how it was.

Now, with more masculine women, that level of emotional control is getting rarer which may be why we’re seeing women more drawn to men who can do what their ancestors did so easily.

PLAY

Whilst men haven’t exactly stopped engaging in physical activity, it has been decreasing, largely due to shifting nature of the work here in the West where we’ve largely moved away from agricultural and industrial economies to more service-based ones. Where it would have been men doing the bulk of the farming, mining, shipbuilding, construction, etc those types of jobs have not only reduced, but they’ve become less physically involving due improvements in processes and technology. And so, where men would have gotten exercise from work and play, many have to rely on some form of recreational activity to get their exercise. This study strongly suggests that men in physically demanding jobs live, on average, one year longer than their deskbound counterparts. In addition, their quality of life will be improved on account of being more physically capable.

So, with the increase in desk jobs over the decades and the significant increase in working from home during and after COVID, men are spending more time sitting than getting out and about.

But even in the recreational space, men are becoming less active.

Distribution of video game users in the United States as of March 2023, by gender

The above chart shows the split between male and female gamers in the United States. Currently, there are 212million gamers in the US. The population is around 332million.

Worldwide, 55% of gamers are male to which there are approximately 3.09billion and it’s men that, on average, spend the most time per week playing at over 6 hours versus women at 5.

Now, whilst video gaming has typically been something men have done since their rise to mainstream popularity in 1970’s, it’s only been in the last 15-20 years that women have drastically increased their activity to the point where they are almost on par with the men.

Now, let’s look at how this relates to masculinised women and feminised men. The masculinised woman will enter typically male gaming genres (first-person shooters, racing and role-playing games) and begin competing with them because masculine energy demands competition to determine who is most competent at the task. The feminised men will be most threatened by the presence of a masculinised woman because these men have worked hard in the game to earn a certain status. If the masculinised woman beats them then their status will reduce and hers will increase. And thus, we end up with those nasty trolls who resort to ridicule and insults in an ever increasingly desperate attempt to protect their position.

But why pick gaming for the feminised man and not something physical like I did in the last post? Well, quite simply because a feminised man wouldn’t typically enter into an arena where physicality was a measure of competence. Similarly, it suits the masculinised woman too as she also doesn’t have to physically compete with masculine men. Gaming levels the playing field as there are no physical barriers. Only strength of will, determination, good reflexes, coordination and good internet will keep you in the game.

And with the gap between the sexes almost at even split, if the perverse social engineering continues, we could be masculinised women and feminised men competing more and more in similar genres.

SEX

Sexual relations between men and women are, arguably, at an all time high. The commoditisation of the human form as something to simply exchange in mutual masturbation is almost complete.

Generally speaking, this trend has had a number of outcomes for both sexes. I looked at the Femcel and how, again, arguably, there is an increase in the number of women being used for short-term sexual encounters by the most desirable minority of men, but, subsequently, not given a loving, lasting relationship.

But what about those men that are deemed to be outside the desirable minority?

Well, there have been a number of movements in recent years for masculine men to try and reclaim some of their lost value in the sexual marketplace as well as regain some respect for themselves. Movements such as MGTOW (Men Go Their Own Way), Red Pill, Black Pill, The Manosphere, etc are all variations of a similar theme that is typically against the Feminist movement being against men.

But what about the feminised man?

This article looks in detail at thoughts I’ve had for some time after I became aware of what an Incel actually is. In short, it is a man who finds himself as Involuntarily Celibate due to not meeting, either actually or perceived, the criteria for traditional or contemporary masculinity. Ergo, he is cast aside as sexually and socially unworthy.

In long, I come to now.

If a man is deemed, either by himself or by women and society at large, to be so low in masculinity that they’re not worthy of the briefest of sexual encounters, let alone a relationship, marriage and children then it would come as no surprise that that would knock the wind out of a man’s ego to the point that he might might retreat so far into himself that the only solace he finds is in online groups of like-minded men.

The trouble with this is that, once retreated into and accepted by such groups, the poison is injected and the vitriol against women begins to spread. Because, you see, it’s all women’s fault that they’re not deemed attractive enough. It’s nothing to do with them. They’re the victims of the Feminist movement and the masculinised woman, you see.

At least, this is what they tell themselves in their online echo chambers, such is the danger of such things. And yet, the dream of the Incel, in the article, is to ‘ascend’ Inceldom and be in a relationship with a woman. So, the Incels hate women and Feminism yet their greatest desire is to be with a woman? Kind of beggars belief, wouldn’t you say?

But do these young, and they tend to be, men do any self-reflection or critique each other on how they could be better suited to the opposite sex?

No. Instead, they spend their time going over how women have it easy and how society is more geared towards them. Which, in some ways, could be argued as true but not to the extent these young men believe.

However, the biggest risk to the Incel is becoming feminised hence online gaming and social media platforms are used to display some form of mental and emotional masculinity where, typically, they may not have the physical traits that would make them desirable to women and respectable to men.

But if more masculinised women take part in the typically male online gaming genres then it would signal to the more typically masculine men in those games that they have been beaten by women. That’s never going to go well particularly when the Incel’s ego will be fragile to start with. Being beaten by a superior man is one thing; some may even take pleasure from it as a form of digital sodomy, but being defeated by a woman and then bitching about it would do irrevocable harm to their online persona.

So, how might an Incel go forward in improving their sexual relations with women? Well, one thing would be to focus on developing their career, their finances, hit the gym and eat a better, more protein and fat-based, diet. The latter would see them produce more testosterone which would help with muscle mass and bone density. They’d start feeling more ‘manly’ and, eventually, they’d start looking it too. Their attitude towards themselves would change and that would later project out towards others. The ideal result in this scenario is they’d become, more or less, a regular guy.

The darker and more disturbing route is they’d keep descending the pit of not just hatred of women, but hatred of themselves to the point where they’d feel so emasculated that they’d start presenting as a woman, almost as if they’d been denying themselves their ‘true’ identity and had been fighting it all this time.

Doing this would not only complete the feminisation, but could see the person engage in self-deprecating activities such is their deep desire for sex. Where the insecure woman, masculinised or not, will use sex straight away to get what she wants (validation of being desirable), this form of transitioned feminised man would offer themselves to satisfy the sexual needs of almost any man on the basis that, ultimately, they want sex and are no longer bothered about being the initiator and penetrative partner in such an engagement. Some may go so far to disregard their genitalia entirely and begin referring to their anus as a male vagina or ‘Mangina’, as I’ve heard it described.

This may cause significant problems within the sexual marketplace in the future. Where ‘slut-shaming’ is used by women against other women to try and keep the price of sex relatively high when certain women (usually of low self-esteem and self-control) are driving it down by granting access for very little in return, what do we think will happen when enough men start using feminised men to meet their sexual needs?

There appears to be a precedent which may well lead to this outcome.

Pornhub issue their viewing statistics every year. The latest is 2022 and, curiously, the Transgender category jumped five places over 2021.

Not only did it jump five places, but the viewership grew 75% to become the second most searched term on the site.

And if we also take that (according to this National Library of Medicine article) the rate of Male to Female versus Female to Male transitions are 2:1 then we can safely assume that (a quick search on any well known porn site will confirm) the bulk of transgender people in porn are Male to Female. Couple that with 60%, according to Pornhub, of viewing traffic being male and with Transgender being the eighth most viewed category by men, we can see there’s a trend skewing men towards wanting to have sex with feminised men. They may be watching it on a screen, but watching it repeatedly signals an internal desire. And, eventually, those men will want to make the desire real and they will go and seek out a transgender woman to begin sexual relations.

Now, here lies the problem. If insecure women get slut-shamed for driving the price of sex down, how low do you think horny, needy and insecure men posing as women will drive it?

If more men transition to becoming legally identified as women and find themselves having more sexual success as a woman than they ever did as a man, who’s going to keep them in check? Women aren’t as most won’t see them as one of their own and men sure as Hell won’t when they’re giving access to the very thing they want. The fact they have the same genitals would become inconsequential if they look feminine enough and are fully submissive which, given how little attention some of these men got from women, I can’t imagine why wouldn’t just let the man do whatever he wanted.

If this trend grows to a point where we start seeing men walking hand-in-hand with transwomen/feminised men with no fear of social recourse then we will be at a point in the West were Feminism has won as it will have begun a clear sexual divide where masculine, straight men see feminised men and transwomen as more sexually viable than actual women. I think it would also be fair to state that femininity would have failed in not providing men a space where they can be loved, needed, respected and understood just in the way the masculinised woman is a symptom of failing masculinity where the woman is not provided proper containment in a relationship to feel safe and secure enough to love unconditionally which would lead to submission within all aspects of the relationship.

LOVE

And from this perversion of sexuality, the ability to form deep, meaningful and intimate bonds is at stake. The feminised man deems himself unworthy of masculinity and so either seeks refuge within himself and others like him or becomes fully feminised and looking to be used by those he deems masculine.

Of course, these are extremes but they do exist.

And what of the average man?

Well, recent events seems to have put a halt on men wanting to get romantically involved with women. The MeToo movement was the spark followed by Time’s Up and the demand for more female-only spaces along with putting more and more women in typically masculine roles and is it really any wonder that the average man doesn’t approach a woman? If the message is that men are not wanted then it will be heeded by the majority and men will cease to engage. Except the very men that these movements and demands are supposed to be against; The ‘bad boys’, the rapists, the harassers, the abusers, etc. Those ones will still be available. In fact, with more men out the picture, these guys will treat the additional abundance of women like it’s open season.

Is that what these Feminist movements were supposed to bring about? Less eligible men for women and a deeper concentration of the scum they detest?

Perhaps it was. Perhaps these movements were to speak to the rational, intelligent men who would recognise that dealing with women was no longer worthwhile.

And the big nail in the coffin? Johnny Depp vs Amber Heard.

Whilst that now in/famous case took place less than two years ago, it highlighted to men that even a man as rich, famous, influential and beloved as Johnny Depp could be brought to the brink of ruin by the machinations of an aggrieved woman.

But I’m not here to just bash the Feminists. Oh, no. I am discussing the feminised man here and the reduction of masculinity.

In relationships, I have watched men get so settled that they regress into being a teenager again and the woman becomes their surrogate mother. It’s sad to watch, but when neither want to marry and raise a family, something’s going to give. With women being conditioned to become more masculine, they believe they have to do everything to prove how much of a ‘boss’ they are. From running the relationship, the house, having a career, having ambition, doing DIY to cooking, cleaning and even paying for the holidays.

What does the guy do? He’s effectively the sleeping partner earning less and contributing what little he can because the woman in his life insists on doing all of it. Not unlike a traditional man. And the man is now more like the traditional woman except they don’t do much in the way of the domestic chores. They might build the odd shed or poorly plan a trip to the cinema, but these feminised men don’t do well in relationships with masculinised women. Sure, they may try to assert themselves, but their attempts end up coming across as feeble and whiny.

And then there’s the hissy fits; The tantrums when they don’t get what they want. It’s ugly watching a grown man go off uncontrollably over something trivial like not putting up a shelf straight.

Just how are these men supposed to function when they are not settled or stable within their own masculinity?

And how are they supposed to be when they enter a relationship with a masculinised woman that channels her maternal instinct towards him, treating him as the child since Feminism dictates that women should no longer bear children?

The problem with such a set up is that the man knows deep down he should be doing what he can to look after the woman, but is being outmuscled by the very woman he’s in the relationship with. It causes frustration, shame, humiliation and guilt over being unable to perform their masculine role, if that is indeed their natural role. It causes a severe imbalance as the feminised male struggles with the conflicting messages. On the one hand, they want to support their woman in everything she wants to do as they believe this is what the modern man should do whilst, simultaneously, struggling with their internal monologue that they should be engaging in the more ‘manly’ aspects of the relationship.

Ultimately, from my own observations, this setup tends to break down within two years. The woman does everything whilst the man ends up giving up trying and just goes along for the ride not unlike a traditional heterosexual relationship except that the woman has proven her value to the man by birthing children and taking care of the house. This doesn’t usually happen when it’s a masculinised woman and feminised man. The woman does the masculine and feminine tasks whilst the man tends to regress into an appendage. Put simply, feminised men are of no use to women and society in general as they have no inherent value i.e. the ability to give birth and be sexually desirable.
And so, within the context of a relationship, the feminised man is a source of resentment, lack of accountability, poor discipline and immaturity across the board. To me, this is the toxic masculinity the Feminists and the Media warn us about. A man with no purpose but full of rage, resentment and bitter, violent thoughts is a vile creature.

FINAL THOUGHTS

So, what to do? The gender experiment has gone on long enough, in my view. We’ve had about a century of gender-bending people and found what?

Well, the global economy, on the whole, has been doing better thanks to corporations being far more productive due to having men and women in the workplace. And that’s about it. Whilst the material world has been enhanced through improvements in technology and processes, men and women are, on the whole, more miserable.

And why should that be a surprise? The family unit has been degraded to a series of money-making scams whilst men and women are pitted against each in work, play and love which, ultimately, benefits greedy, soulless, destructive corporations. As I said in the previous part, I strongly believe governments around the developed world saw an excellent opportunity to exploit a bunch of disgruntled women, took it, included some big corporations and now, several generations later, people are less happy, they don’t want to date, they don’t want to have as much sex, in fact, they generally don’t want to engage with other people.

What we need is a chance for community to come back. For men and women to meet in more natural settings where they can meet each other as they truly are. Not the ‘go-getter’ at the office who’s adamant on climbing the corporate ladder or the gym bunny who thinks she’s too fat whilst everyone else knows she’s fine as she is or the gym bro who thinks he’s too skinny and needs to bulk up to be considered attractive to women.

In truth, we are not wired to get together in fleeting circumstances. We got this far as a species because we worked, lived, played and loved together. People grew with each other and learned to appreciate the person for exactly who they were rather than who they wanted them to be or whatever society and the media says they should be.

And, at present, the media, specifically the media, has been demanding women be more like men and men be more like women. Who do you think tells them to pump this shit? The same governments and corporations that started all this.

And all the while, it’s the average man and woman that suffers as we are forced into realms that don’t belong to us. I’ll reiterate, there have always been masculine women and feminine men. It’s the perverse conditioning of feminine women into becoming masculinised and masculine men into becoming feminised that I am against.

The problem now is getting both sides to acknowledge, admit and accept that it’s happened and is happening. Only then can we start to reconcile, reset and rebuild our relationship with each other.

Perhaps we should even bring religion back. That was another casualty that quietly died off in the prevailing decades of the Feminist movement. What else could stand in the way of women’s true liberation but a patriarchal organisation hellbent on serving God, Jesus and preserving the sacred union between man and woman. Heck, every religion, even Satanism albeit more carnal and debauched, values the sanctity of the bond between man and woman.

And I think we have it. Men with no purpose and women with too much purpose causes everyone feel more miserable. The answer to reversing this, it seems, is church or some contemporary variant. That coupled with allowing men to become masculine and provide that safety and security so that women can become feminine once again and embrace their need to be mothers and pillars of communities.

Maybe then, the world can be a bit more right as we’ll have righted the people in the world a bit more.